A Mass of Christian Burial will be held Monday, September 15, 2014 at 1:30 p.m. in the Cathedral of St. John the Evangelist for Alison Neustrom, 42, who passed away on September 10, 2014 after an eleven-month battle with pancreatic cancer.
Father Chester Arceneaux, rector of the Cathedral of St. John the Evangelist, will conduct the funeral services. Interment will follow the services in St. Charles Borromeo Cemetery in Grand Coteau, LA.
Alison was born and raised in Lafayette, Louisiana. Following graduation in 1993 from The University of Louisiana in Lafayette with a degree in sociology, she moved to Baton Rouge and became a resident there for most of her adult life. She attained her Master’s of Social Work in 1996 and a Ph.D. in Sociology in 2001, both from Louisiana State University. Following graduation, Alison was a Post-Doctoral Fellow at the School of Social Welfare, University of California, Berkeley. Later, living in San Francisco, she worked as a Senior Research Analyst at the Center for Families, Children and the Courts under the Administrative Office of the Courts, Judicial Council of California.
In 2011 Alison married the love of her life, and while she had less than a handful of years in the companionship of her dear husband, Dave Carner, and their beautiful “firecracker” of a toddler, Ceci, she believed firmly that her life had been defined by blessings and joys, and that God was loving. She reflected often on her hopes for a safe and vibrant future for Dave and Ceci, and she trusted that God would envelop and care for them through the enduring love and loyalty of her close-knit family and friends. True to character, her final thoughts and questions were of the well-being of others.
Alison was a warm, open, principled and loving woman who dedicated her life to social justice and helping those less fortunate. Over the course of some two decades, her research and work spanned issues ranging from child abuse and juvenile justice to anti-poverty programs and hurricane recovery efforts. From 2004 to 2009, she worked for the Louisiana Department of Social Services, where she eventually was appointed to the position of Assistant Secretary, Office of Family Support. From 2009 onward, she was Vice President of Public Policy at the Louisiana Association of Nonprofit Organizations (LANO), and then Research Director at the Public Affairs Research Council of Louisiana (PAR).
Alison was known for her ready smile and way of putting people at ease even before they knew it had happened. She was one to persevere, overcoming a childhood stutter to join the high school debate team. As a college student, she never considered any career other than helping those struggling on the margins of life, whether because of poverty, racism, illness or devastating turns of fate.
She believed in forgiveness in her personal life, second chances for neighborhoods and communities, and investing in Louisiana and the nation for the broad promise of progress. Her aims went beyond restoring physical health, material necessities, fair opportunities, or stable livelihoods; she worked so others would have equal access to the durable dignity that comes through the redemption of spirit.
Alison had an easy and convivial manner. All of which proved both disarming when she would genially but directly challenge others in political argument or stand her ground with equal measures of civility and conviction. She loved her parents and siblings unconditionally and knew that she was loved unconditionally, a belief that enabled her to bring calmness as well as firmness to discussions of difficult issues in life.
She loved: the color orange, oranges, clementines, and sweet potato casseroles, yellow dresses, crawfish boils, attending games of the Ragin’ Cajuns and New Orleans Saints, pork tenderloin, her Mama’s gumbos, her dad’s guitar playing, sidecar cocktails, To Kill A Mockingbird, The Sound of Music, sunshine and sunflowers, the sunset drive across the Atchafalaya Basin heading home to Lafayette, but mostly, simple ordinary family-time with Dave and Ceci, the loves of her life.
She is survived by her loving husband Dave V. Carner Jr.; her beloved daughter, Cecilia (Ceci) Kay Carner, age 2; her parents, Michael and Cecilia (Ceci) O’Keefe Neustrom; three sisters, Kimberly, Vanessa, and Emily; and two brothers, Benjamin and Thomas, and his wife Lynne.
She was predeceased by her paternal grandparents, Owen and Barbara Bolding Neustrom, and uncle William Howard (Billy) Neustrom, all of New Iberia; her maternal grandmother, Rose Annette Saxon O’Keefe, uncle Jeremiah “Jody” O’Keefe and godfather, James Patrick “Jim” O’Keefe, cousins Justin Brown and Adam O’Keefe, all of Biloxi, MS.
Alison’s life will be forever cherished by her maternal grandfather, Jeremiah J. “Jerry” O’Keefe and wife Martha, Biloxi, MS; by Dave’s parents, Dr. David and Kay Carner, Brookhaven, MS and brother-in-law, Graham and wife, Mary Etta Carner, Clinton, MS; by Pat and Maureen O’Keefe Ward, Bethesda, MD, John and Kathryn O’Keefe Kay, Madison, MS; John M. O’Keefe, Honolulu, HI, Bob and Mary O’Keefe Snell, The Woodlands, TX, David and Mercedes O’Keefe Huval, Lafayette, LA, Joseph S. O’Keefe and Stephanie, Chevy Chase, MD, and Virginia O’Keefe, Chris and Susan O’Keefe Snyder, Jeff O’Keefe and Lynn, Justin O’Keefe and Theresa, all of Biloxi, MS; by Roger and godmother Theresa Neustrom Strojny, Lafayette, LA, David Neustrom, Baton Rouge, LA, and Duane and Theresa Neustrom, New Iberia, LA. She is also survived by her loving aunts Annette S. O’Keefe, Janie O’Keefe, Lydia Neustrom, and Angie Mehalader.
Family was so important to Alison, especially being surrounded by her 75 first-cousins, nieces and nephews from the Neustrom and O’Keefe clans, which included her godchildren Patrick Neustrom of New Iberia, LA and Thomas Catterall of London, England. She worked hard to see that baby Ceci well-knew her own first cousins: Joe Kishbaugh, Owen and Evie Neustrom, and Michael, Dylan and Nathan Neustrom.
Alison was so grateful for receiving the awesome medical expertise from Drs. Robert Chasuk, Michael Castine and his wonderful assistant Elton, and all the loving chemo nurses at Baton Rouge General; and Drs. Yuman Fong, Nancy Kemeny and especially Robert Siegelbaum of Memorial Sloan Kettering in New York. Alison was informed as to the most cutting edge trials and research in the world, which were devotedly researched by her aunt, Maureen O’Keefe Ward. Words are inadequate in conveying that depth of gratitude. She and her family were totally supported in this journey, especially from their extended family, life-long friends, neighbors and prayer groups (“The Stones”) who called, wrote, visited, prayed, sent relics and rosaries, donated, baby-sat, cooked, researched, videoed her, but most of all were simply “there” for her.
Pallbearers will be Benjamin Neustrom, Thomas Neustrom, Joseph Kishbaugh, Graham Carner, Ryan Neustrom, Joseph O’Keefe, Eric Doescher, and Brian Wiggins. Honorary Pallbearers are Katie O’Brien, Barbara Robinson, Gwen Mahon, Robert Travis Scott, Michael Loveless, Chris Kisling, and Gary Reeves. Reflections at the funeral mass will be given by Fr. Mark Holland, St. James Episcopal Church of Baton Rouge, LA, who ministered to Alison over the last year and by her lifelong friend, Jeff Gremillion, Houston, TX.
The family requests that visiting hours be observed at Walters Funeral Home on Sunday, September 14, 2014, from 4:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m., and resume Monday morning at 10:00 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. A rosary will be prayed at 7:00 p.m. Sunday evening.
In lieu of flowers and in keeping with Alison’s love of others, her family asks that you make donations to the charity of your choice, or to Hospice of Acadiana (www.hospiceacadiana.com/donations), which so lovingly cared for her in her final two weeks, under the direction of Dr. Morris Hoffpauir. If you wish to donate to the family for the care and education of Alison's and Dave's daughter, Cecilia, you can contribute at GoFundMe (http://www.gofundme.com/e1dz4o).